Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Meditation, the Ego, and a Great Book

It has been a year of fabulous things coming my way, that seem to arrive in just the right order, and at just the right time. That's when I picked up the best seller book, “Eat, Pray, Love” by Elizabeth Gilbert. It is a persoanl account of one womans decision to take control of her life, and the year of self discovery that ensues.

I loved it – not least because the book starts out at Elizabeth's divorce – and found plenty to be inspired by. But, there is one concept that has had a huge influence on my thoughts since, and that is when she speaks about the ego, the “I”.


Elizabeth goes to India for four months to practice meditation; yet even in this most perfect environment she struggles to still her mind. She is given the advise that the constant demand on her thoughts is her ego. That the ego ( the “I”) is always looking to hold power, but that its domination over us actuallly holds us back from becoming whole. Liz was directed to distract the ego with love, in the heart.

So the next time I meditated I tried this. When my ego came up with distratction I gently sent my “I” down to my heart, with love, to wait for me. All was calm and quiet.

It was almost a relief to stop the “I” thoughts. And so much of the chattering mind is in the “I” context. I want, I need, I must, I ought, I hate, I never, I can't I love, I think, I wish, I will, I wont. All pronounced with such force and urgency that it's easy to feel it must be listened to, that it is important. But the ego can be subdued, allowing the peace of just being to occur. The perfect state to meditate!

Please leave a comment if you have read the book, or have some ideas on Ego.

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3 comments:

Natalie said...

Hi Paula, It has been great to find your blog. Thankyou! I seem to be on a bit of a journey myself and have read a lot of the books on your reading list already, though Eat, Pray, Love is one that I have not yet come across but will be searching it out. I had a quick look at the links on your page and will be spending some more time on these sites also. Will be interested to hear of your journey, where you started and where you have ended up and how long it has taken you to get there, the hurdles, the highs the lows and ways you got to be so positive. I will enjoy reading further information from you.
cheers
Natalie

Karen said...

Hi Paula, It was great to find your blog. After your divorce and raising two children on your own, you seem to have finally found the peace that you have been looking for. I will certainly be reading the book that you have recommended. You are right when you talk about the EGO. EGO is a powerful thing, and if we can fill this with love, then life is alot more simpler. Meditation is a great invention for all working mothers. Good luck on your journey. Regards, Karen

Karen said...

Hi Paula, It was great to find your blog. After your divorce and raising two children on your own, you seem to have finally found the peace that you have been looking for. I will certainly be reading the book that you have recommended. You are right when you talk about the EGO. EGO is a powerful thing, and if we can fill this with love, then life is alot more simpler. Meditation is a great invention for all working mothers. Good luck on your journey. Regards, Karen